Really. Let’s be honest.

Most of us got terrible sex education. There were so few resources for us to use. It was hard to tell the difference between accurate sexual information and misinformation What I want you to understand is that almost everyone feels insecure about sex to start with. Or at least not confident.


And then, add to that, a sense of shame that we know so little or feel so incompetent. It just makes for a sad mess.


But here’s what I’m asking you to remember:

1.    Sex is not rocket science. The basics are not that complicated, no matter what the media, the experts or your friends may say.

2.    Once you have the “basics” sex is yours to improvise, enjoy, explore and figure out. And everyone’s sex life is so different that you don’t need to know the statistics about everyone else’s

3.    It’s not only okay to ask questions. As a matter of fact, it’s GOOD to ask questions.

4.    Every partner is different so not knowing just makes sense. Go ask your partner, if you have one.

5.    Being fun in bed never means you have to be an expert. So just remember this as you go along in life. You’re not alone. Everyone feels like they know nothing about sex. It’s nothing to be ashamed of.



Written By

Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus

Sex Therapist & Relationship Expert  |  Author of Sex Points & Satisfaction Guaranteed: How to Have the Sex You've Always Wanted