Joint Pain and Sex

If you suffer from arthritis or other joint pain,

have no fear, a fabulous sex life can still be yours for the taking. I know it feels like you will never be able to having great sex, but with a bit of planning, extra pillows and, above all, a sense of humor, you can take back your sex life.

  • Positions will need to vary depending on where the pain is experienced. You need to support the affected area with a minimal amount of movement. Ironically, the classic missionary position will work best if the woman is experiencing pain, and women on top will work best if a male partner is experiencing pain.
  • Pillows and cushions are your best friend, as the real key is keeping the areas that are in pain, supported. There are excellent “wedge” shaped cushions that can help support the back, the legs, the arms or neck if that is necessary.
  • Move slowly. Especially if you are just trying to get back to a sex life, move slowly with your partner and express what is going on. Do not ignore pain!! If something hurts, shift, and try something else. It’s doable. 
  • Get yourself a light vibrator. Note, I didn’t say smaller… or weaker.. As we get older we need higher levels of stimulation to reach orgasm, and for women this often means a stronger vibrator which is chargeable and not battery operated. Check out the weight of the vibrators before purchasing them. There are any number of light weight, chargeable external vibrators that can be your best friend.

Please don’t give up on your sex life because of arthritis, or other joint pain. Do what we all do when you see a bump in the road. Reroute.



Written By

Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus

Sex Therapist & Relationship Expert  |  Author of Sex Points & Satisfaction Guaranteed: How to Have the Sex You've Always Wanted