Many Myths

Here are three common myths that women are told about their vaginal pain: It’s normal, “it’s psychological,”“Just learn to live with it.”

Any of these alone, but certainly together, will result in a woman feeling, powerless, crazy, an hopeless. But here’s the deal: they are flat out incorrect!

 

You don't have to put up with pain

First of all, let me be really clear. You don’t have to  “just have to deal with it” or put up with pain. Pain with sex is a condition that needs to be remedied and can be treated. 

Sometimes, it’s a matter of tight muscles or compromised tissue, or both, and sometimes it’s actually the nerves involved. There are even rare circumstances where a woman is allergic to a man’s semen. But you have to know that there are treatment options.

 

Painful sex is not normal

Also, let’s be clear. Painful sex is not “normal”, however, it is common. Normal and common are not the same thing.  Almost 75% of women have experienced some degree of pain with sex. 7%-22% have more persistent pain. Up to 45% of menopausal women report painful sex. This speaks to how common it is. Let’s not confuse this with being normal, which it is not.

 

Don't believe the myths

And when someone says “well, pain with sex must be emotional, or psychological” my response is: yes, it certainly becomes emotional because when there’s pain, there’s anxiety around pain. But that doesn’t mean the cause of the pain itself is psychological or emotional. 

So don’t believe the myths.

 

I have so much more information about this in my book Satisfaction Guaranteed. You may want to check it out.