The Project of keeping Your Sex Life Alive - Part 2
Here are 3 WAYS TO MAKE SPACE FOR SEX:
CLEAR THE SPACE
Because it’s the room I’m least likely to show guests, I tend to treat my bedroom like extra storage space. It’s also the room in my house least likely to get vacuumed. But prioritizing your sex life means treating the bedroom like the crown jewel of your home. Founder of the design company AumHome, Nidhi Huba recently spoke to SheKnows about how to feng shui your room for sex. Huba suggests clearing unsexy things like dead plants, dirt, and dust first.
SET A TONE
Huba also emphasizes adding two of anything: lamps, candles, night tables, and working with the five senses. Choose colors based on what you want in your sex life. Reds increase energy. Blues calm. Greens encourage heart-centeredness and prosperity. “Go beyond just colors,” Huba adds. “Really try to use every sense. I love encouraging my clients to switch to soft sheets, cozy blankets and soft rugs. Work with room sprays and spritz a mix of sandalwood, cedar, rose and vetiver over the bed.”
DITCH THE DISTRACTIONS
“People get sucked into social media and work emails and before you know it, an hour has slipped away and it’s too late to get amorous,” says Bat Sheva Marcus, LCSW, MPH, PHD, and clinical director of Maze Women’s Sexual Health.
Smartphones aren’t the only distraction you may need to clear out of your bedroom, but they are a common distraction. I can think of a million excuses to bring my smartphone to bed, from reading myself to sleep to waking myself up, but none of those activities are any good for my sex life.
“I know it’s hard, but try to keep the smart phones out of the bedroom,” Marcus suggests. “Invest in an old fashioned alarm clock, if you need to be woken up. But if you keep the phones out of the room, you’ll be amazed to find you have freed up so much time for talking and snuggling, not just sex. And if that seems like too big a barrier, then at least use the rule on weekends.”
Where you have sex matters, and it’s possible you used to think about it more than you do now. If you have your own home and you’ve got no kids or grown kids, the tension about where to have sex may be gone. That doesn’t mean you should stop thinking about where you have sex. On the contrary, this is an ideal time to think about making your bedroom a great place to have sex.”