let me get this straight… you feel like your sex life, or lack thereof, is creating problems in your relationship? Well, welcome to the club! 

In many, if not most, long term relationships there comes a time when you feel like your disinterest in sex (or your partner’s) is creating real problems.

But often, there is a part of you that believes that maybe something else is going on in the relationship that is making you feel like you don’t want to have sex. And frankly it can get really confusing. Because all long term relationships have some issues. So I’m going to ask you to take a quiet minute and think about it honestly. If your sex life was working, if you and your partner were having regular sex that made you feel close and maybe made you laugh,  or if you had sex that made you both a bit happier and more connected, would the relationship look better? If you answer yes, then you are probably right. The lack of sex is having a negative impact on the relationship. 

And that makes sense...you know why?

Because honestly, sex is one of the most powerful tools to help a relationship get on track and stay on track.

That’s a bit mind-blowing for many people because we don’t think of sex as a “tool” for something else. But it is. And here's the added bonus: it’s a tool you have way more control over than many others. You and your partner probably have some tension in many other areas of your life: your expectations of neatness or cleanliness, your expectations of family time, how much time you want to be sociable hanging out with other people, how you spend money. Negotiating those things are part and parcel of a happy long term relationship. But they are complicated, take time and tend to change gradually. The good news is that revamping your sex life is actually often way easier and a quicker fix to feel closer and more connected. 

So… if you think your lack of desire (or your partner’s) is having a negative effect on your relationship, fix it. I’m here to help.

Don't let your journey end here! If you're looking for more insights and solutions, grab a copy of my book, Satisfaction Guaranteed, or schedule a free 10-minute consultation to explore your next steps. Also check out my new course Curing the Low Libido Bedroom. Designed to help you reignite desire and reclaim intimacy. Your satisfaction starts today!