Every year I see people piling up on the resolutions before New Years. And we all know the old story. Most of the resolutions have hit the dust heap by January 15th. So some people say to give up on the resolutions. I’m not one of those...

I think moments in time that feel like they give us a fresh start are truly important:  a birthday, a Monday, the first of a month, a particular holiday, or, even New Years. It’s a great motivator and I think we should all anchor onto those. But here’s the thing: You need to make the resolutions stick. It’s not so hard, but it does involve some thought. Your resolutions should be something specific, something you actually have control over, something you can measure having done, something that feels like it will make a difference (even a little one) and something within a limited time period. Got that?

So what does that mean for your sex life? It probably won’t be helpful if you say: This year I am going to have better sex or this year I’m going to have more sex. How? When?  What’s your plan??

Here are some more measurable, sustainable resolutions you may want to consider. But please, please, just pick one or two. And once you have accomplished those you can add another. Or, more likely, they will have led to another.

• I am going to sit down and have a real conversation with my partner about our sex life before the new year.
• My partner and I are going to schedule sex dates once a week through January and then check in again. 
• I am going to read 2 books (specific books) about how to improve my sex life by February 1. (Dare I suggest mine?)
• I am going to  set up an appointment with (gynecologist, therapist, urologist - fill in the blank) so I can start to tackle a specific issue.
• I will sign up for an on-line course that I believe will address my issue. If low libido is your issue, feel free to click here for my course. More is coming soon.

Good luck!!! You will feel so much better once you take one small step forward. I promise. Then, once you’ve checked off success on that resolution,  pick a new date and another resolutions. You got this.

HAPPY NEW YEAR! 

I have so much more information about this in my book Satisfaction Guaranteed. You may want to check it out!