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As a veteran sex therapist, I’m frustrated almost daily by the persistent myth that great sex comes naturally, and when it doesn’t, there is something wrong.
Give me a break. Pleasure is learned.
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Whether you’re dealing with pain, lack of arousal, trouble with orgasms, or embarrassment about your desires & fantasies, this is a safe space to explore the sexual side of pleasure.
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“Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus has written a truly comprehensive and compassionate guide to reclaiming your sex life.
Sex Points provides you with a revolutionary points system along with a detailed assessment that will help you to determine exactly what is going on, along with myriad effective solutions to address the problems and gain points. Definitely one to have on your shelf!”
—Nicole Jardim, Certified Women’s Health Coach, author of "Fix Your Period"
“I know of no other book that so thoroughly presents the myriad causes and solutions to women's sexual problems;
Dr. Bat Sheva seamlessly integrates psychological, medical, hormonal, relational, and emotional causes and solutions.”
—Dr. Laurie Mintz, licensed psychologist, certified sex therapist, and author of "Becoming Cliterate" and "A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex"
"You shared your point system with me many years ago, and I want you to know that I have repeated it many, many times to my patients. It’s awesome!"
—Kathy Herron, Certified Nurse Midwife
“Dr. Bat Sheva is not afraid to take a controversial stance or bust some myths if she believes it's going to help,
and her toolkit is both wide and deep. Much more than just a talk therapist, Dr. Bat Sheva is a take-action therapist and Sex Points will guide you from insight to implementation.”
—Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT, New York Times bestselling author of "She Comes First"
“For any woman who has ever been told 'You just need to relax,' 'You and your partner need to take a vacation,' or 'It's all in your head,'
the wisdom in these pages will come as a welcome relief and validation that the simple platitudes we often tell women are not only insulting, but just plain wrong. This is by far the best book that is currently available for women who are having problems with sex.”
—Paul Joannides, PsyD, author of "Guide to Getting It On"
“Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus breaks down the root causes of sexual issues and lays out an inviting and abundant buffet of scientifically researched tools available to you to recover your sex drive and orgasm.
We have for too long simply accepted that it's normal to struggle with sex and hormonal issues, especially as we age. It's just not true. Get yourself educated and get your sex points plan together!”
—Alisa Vitti, founder of FLO Living, best-selling author of "WomanCode" and "In the FLO"
“A healthy sex life is as much emotional as it is psychological, and Dr. Bat Sheva gives great perspective and insight.
This book is a must-read, especially when healing from sexual wounds and/or negative experiences while trying to identify what truly impacts your sex life.”
—Dr. Anna Cabeca, Triple Board Certified, OBGYN, author of "The Hormone Fix"
PAIN: My vagina hurts. My vulva hurts. Intercourse hurts. Sometimes, the idea of the pain of intercourse is so scary, I can’t even go there.
AROUSAL: I think I want to have sex, but my body and/or my mind aren’t on board. I don’t get physically turned on. I can’t seem to quiet that perpetual laundry list running in my head once I get going.
ORGASM: I have never had an orgasm, or even gotten close. If get close, I don’t seem to be able to finish. I used to have orgasms, but they seem to have disappeared—and if I have them, they are pathetic echoes of what they used to be.
DESIRE: I really am not very interested in having sex, even theoretically. Honestly, if my partner didn’t care, I could go months, or even forever without thinking about sex.
In my experience, nearly every sexual problem a woman has falls into one or—commonly—more than one of the following areas: PAIN, AROUSAL, ORGASM, DESIRE.
Here’s where points can step in. When you’re in tune with your body and situation, you can adjust your point profile as needed throughout your life. When your sex life is flagging, you can remember that everyone is different, but everyone can be helped. You don’t have to be in a sizzling new relationship, or on vacation in Paris.